How To Stop Caring What Other People Think

How To Stop Caring What Other People Think

Fears are funny little beliefs we have that trigger chemical reactions in us. They usually mean different things for different people. The same thing that scares someone to death, like jumping out of a plane, is a sport that someone like Guinness World Record holder Don Kellner has done over 42,000 times since 1961, purely for fun!

Here are important steps to help you in your quest to truly tackle your fears for good and find true freedom. Reference them when you are getting frustrated in your personal growth. Most importantly, practice them! Practicing new behaviors is the only way to permanently change your brain chemistry, and ultimately, your actions, your personality, and your life.

STOP GIVING A CRAP WHAT OTHERS THINK

Every single journal entry I wrote before the age of twenty-four featured the same theme over and over: they always referenced someone else. “Spent the day with Joe at the park . . .” “Katie and I hung out at her house and drank green tea . . .” “Hung out with Paul and Zack today . . .” Page after page focused on other people.

Think about what relationships are ruling you. Maybe you’re ruled by your relationships to people, drugs, teachers, strangers, food, family, or a significant other. It may have taken years, but you must finally no longer be willing to entertain anyone else’s thoughts of you or what you should be doing with your life or your time. Your time is precious – it is yours and yours alone. People may not find value in the same things you find value in. That’s okay – do not let it derail you, because…

PEOPLE ARE WRONG

Okay, okay. They’re not always wrong. But their opinion is not always going to be yours, either.

I certainly don’t dismiss other people’s opinions or advice. In fact, when I realized that other people were totally fallible, for the first time in my life, this is when I actually truly heard them. I saw myself listening for the first time ever. I took advice, I considered things people told me about myself without getting insulted or defensive. I improved on my behaviors, I got nicer in my speech, and I adopted new words and mannerisms to express myself. However, I also saw other people’s opinions for exactly what they were: their own beliefs, based on their own life experience, and they were just a fallible as I was.

People are subject to human error. And that’s okay! (It just means they’re not robots.) It’s important to acknowledge that human error shows up in all kinds of ways. Make a promise to yourself to stop getting offended and defensive about how other people think you should live. Simply listen.

REALIZE OTHER PEOPLE’S BELIEFS CHANGE

If other people were just as fallible as I was, that meant that just like my opinions, their opinions could change. They often had. First of all, as far as I was concerned, everyone else had been dead wrong about what I was capable of for as long as I could remember. I had heard I “couldn’t do everything” and that I had to start “being realistic” my entire life. I was always discouraged from doing things “my way.” Even at my progressive college, my four mentors (the classic average was one—two at most) sat me down to advise me to “concentrate on acting.”

I asked them all, Why?

When I finally started to realize that I could do whatever I put my mind to regardless of anyone else’s opinions, and that “being realistic” was the surest way to dissolve my dreams for another five years, I started to take other people’s opinions with a grain of salt. They had their place if they were positive, but other than that I wasn’t going to stand around and be told what I could not do.

Ironically, the second I started to accomplish my goals, other people’s opinions about what I was capable of changed immediately. Suddenly it was expected that everything I did was wildly successful and fun, because that was the image I had created by living my life that way. This helped me evaluate what I really could do and inspired me to become more and more a person that former naysayers now believed in.

Since then I’ve learned that finding this conviction is the difference. It’s the difference between getting the job during the interview and losing it to the next person. It’s the difference between continuing your business in its current direction and knowing when you need to change course. It’s the difference between creating a life of stability and always feeling like you’re a few steps behind.

Once you have a foundation for who you want to be, and you begin to accomplish those goals, you are setting the stage for other people’s opinions of you. Recognize that other people are also human, beautiful, fallible, funny, fucked up, and everything in between. More importantly what other people say does not determine who you are. This is crucial to lasting change.

LEAVE JUDGMENTS AT THE DOOR

Take the time to pause before you judge someone—at least out loud. You can’t take your words back. When we pause, we can even start to rephrase our thoughts about a certain someone or even about the situation itself. When we step back from judgment, we can truly begin to reevaluate what place it has in our lives. We begin to get control of our own mind.

In order to stop being ruled by my relationships immediately, I made it simple for myself: if I had a judgment, question, or theory about someone else’s life choices, I just asked them about it. I noticed (in pretty short order) that many people got very defensive when I asked them about their lives or plans or current situations, and that was because I was, in essence, being judgmental. But a lot of people opened up to me. And after a few days of this I realized how silly (and hypocritical) it was of me to have judgments about anyone else at all, and how much time it had taken away from my own life and my own goals speculating about who Brad was seeing or what Marcy was doing or how my Aunt felt about something I did five years ago.

I literally just stopped. I was done wasting my time.

STOP TRYING TO CHANGE THEM:

Like attracts like. People want to be around people who are like them—or better yet, people who make them better! Strive to make everyone and everything around you better, and watch as they miraculously become so.

Trying to change people sure did make me realize how silly it is to try to change anyone or anything but myself. I found way more productive things to do immediately, like meditate, write, go for a run, or work on my personal power.

JUST DO IT:

If you want your life to look differently, if you want to see the world, or start running, or lose weight, or start a business, or write a book, or quit your job, there is only one way to get there: Do It. Putting the blame on others for your faults, or giving yourself excuses not to live the life you want because of what other people may think, is depriving yourself of what you know you truly deserve. So whatever, whoever you want to be, put it out into the world. If you do this, people around you will follow suit.

Try it sincerely, and you’ll see!

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Photos by Arielle Levy

This article is a slightly adapted excerpt from my #1 bestselling book, Cured by Nature, which you can grab here.

 

 

My Favorites: Health + Wellness

My Favorites: Health + Wellness

Hi angels! I’m writing to you from my sun soaked backyard in San Diego, surrounded by bamboo and looking off into the distance at the violet, palm tree-lined mountains.

Every time I get to enjoy a weekday like this, I think back to my twenty-five years in New York, chasing sunshine in the summer during short lunch breaks at my grueling laboratory job, and wishing I could get paid to write. I always think back to the frustrated feeling of watching life pass me by as I worked tirelessly, many day for reasons I wasn’t even clear on.

It’s such a contrast.

Today, I have stopped worrying about if things are finished or perfect. I have stopped caring if things happen on my timeline. If life pulls me in a different direction, I go there. When a voice inside me says paint, I listen. When my body tells me what it craves, I nourish it. When I feel stagnant, I move. When I feel lazy, I hustle. When I miss making music, I make it. This is the great flow of the cosmos living and moving eloquently inside of and outside of me. There is no longer a voice that says no. Creation is a must for me, in all its forms.

My top tip for creating the life of your dreams is to commit to something bigger than yourself. The fastest path to success starts with enriching your spiritual practice – your ability to look within.

In my experience, you really truly cannot create something meaningful without first having an authentic, loving connection and relationship with yourself. I feel so incredibly grateful for the fact that I get to set my own goals and my own schedule nowadays. And while YES – I end up working WAY MORE now than I did when I was clocking in for someone else – at least I am working on projects that *I* want to work on and am accomplishing and checking goals off my lists that I want to do. It’s so liberating — that feeling of freedom never gets old to me.

I’m so grateful to the wonderful humans who created the projects (and products!) that have shaped my health – without any guarantee that they’d pay off. I wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for those people – specifically, the people who wrote the books that put me in this mindset to get healthy. The people who made the products that inspired me to get out of bed when I was at my sickest. The people who, through their passion and their stories, inspired me to switch mindsets from I CANNOT to OF COURSE I CAN.

I wanted to feature the incredible brands that do better – so that people like us can feel TRULY well and do what we love and were put on this earth to do.

This might even end up being a Part I, because the list for me is totally endless. Without further ado, here are my health and wellness faves right now:

The Psychic Power of Plants is one of my favorite books of all time. Not only is this gem the original copy published by Signet in 1974 (which makes me giddy!), it confirms, answers and COMPLETELY blows your mind about plant life. Careful scientific testing has shown that plants respond not only to physical care but to mental stimulus as well. Thoughts of violence can be just as damaging to a plant psychically as overwatering is to its roots. Feelings of love can stimulate a plant as much as the most expensive plant foods. This book is fascinating and has really inspired me in my own work recently, as I’m working on book #2 right now 🙂

I started putting He Sho Wu in everything again and have kicked about 5 different colds that threatened to sneak up on me. I LOVE this stuff! I use this in my teas, on my salads and as seasoning for meats, bread and soups. He Shou Wu is a traditional herb and tonic that has a history of use as a longevity, anti-aging, blood-building, beauty, & rejuvenation food. Regular consumption of this herb may tonify and nourish the blood, hair, skin, nervous system, sexual center, shen (Spirit), and Jing (primary essence/life force). It is a tonic for the endocrine glands and may help improve stamina. It’s especially good for resistance to cold by promoting red blood cells. This enhances immune function and increases antioxidant activity.

You guys may have noticed that a few months ago we invested in a kombucha tap for The Organic Life HQ. It’s been AWESOME. We save a ton of money and have kombucha ON TAP! Did I mention it’s on tap?!

Right now we’re rocking GT’s Gingerade and Hibiscus Ginger. SO delicious and amazing! Because it’s naturally fermented with a living colony of bacteria and yeast, Kombucha is a probiotic beverage. This has a myriad of benefits such as improved digestion, fighting candida (harmful yeast) overgrowth, mental clarity, and mood stability. We sip these all day long for energy, gut balance and because they’re really yummy!

Seriously obsessed with this organic soothing body scrub! I use it every night and it’s made SUCH a difference in my skin. Especially in the summer, to fight off dirt, grime and sweat, it’s a MUST! My legs have never been so smooth!

Have a painful or difficult period? This oil has totally balanced me and truly helps during moon time. Seriously, such a lifesaver! Check it out.

I never ever ever ever leave the house without my Swell bottle! I go on hikes every single day and it’s a MUST for hydration!

Did you guys see how to protect yourself from negative energy? A huge part of my practice is protection jewels. My current (and long-time) favorite has been Selenite, a powerful cleansing tool to have in your home, office and sacred space, as it will constantly cleanse, clear and protect the energy of your environment. I also love this Selenite necklace, which provides on-the-go protection from negative vibes. It’s pretty much The Year of the Hater, so I know we could all use it – haha!

Need some bliss in your life? Try this Bliss Booster by MoonDeli, one of my new favorite companies ever! Built along the likes of Sun Potion and Moon Juice, MoonDeli provides high-quality blends of adaptogens, anti-inflammatory herbs and flowers in powder form, for easy-to-add access to your body’s favorite tonics. This cayenne-spiked raw cacao and maca root blend with notes of cinnamon may help relieve stress, enhance vitality, and bring the mind into the present.

This is going to be your fitness best friend! One inexpensive product, that helps develop core strength and improve coordination, balance, and endurance. I LOVE mine!

Thanks for reading my loves! I love sharing these posts with you! Do you have any health and wellness favorites? I’d love to hear about them!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Six Simple Ways To Protect Yourself From Negative Energy:

Six Simple Ways To Protect Yourself From Negative Energy:

Have you ever wondered how to get rid of negative energy? Are you there right now, living with negative energy dragging on you? Ridding your body and home of negative and harmful energy is one of the most important things for you to do. Here’s how!

Proven methods for protective, good energy:

Juniper Smudge Stick -The best times to practice Juniper Smudging are when you are feeling energetically depleted, dull or unmotivated. Open your intuition up to new spiritual planes with a cleansing energy that is less about the hardcore purification of Sage, and more aligned with the gentle, uplifting energy you need after an intense purification.  Use Juniper after Sage to lighten your space, to promote fresh pine-scented joy or light before and during meditation.

A Selenite Pyramid – The protective energy that these mini Selenite Pyramids cast is anything but small! Creating crystal grids of Selenite is an easy way to ensure that both your home, sacred space and mind have energetic clarity. Arm your desk with a Selenite pyramid for a energy shield to protect against workplace drama, or add one to your nightstand to keep negative thoughts from invading your dreams.

Energy Clearing Necklace – Made with a naturally polished selenite crystal, wearing the Energy Clearing Necklace daily energetically clears your body, protects your aura from negative energy and keeps your mind, body and spirit in balance. It carries a very high-vibration that evokes deep peace and clarity. This gorgeous pendant necklace is a form of “liquid light” that you can wear everyday to infuse your mind, body and spirit with white light

Nuummite Stone – The best way to keep that darkness isn’t to pretend we don’t have it, but rather to accept it and surround it with light. The Nuummite meaning will lend you strength and confidence so that you can see the mistakes and consequences of your dark side, as lessons that you can use to your advantage in the future. Keep your darker urges at bay through maintaining a harmony of dark and light. To help balance your yin and yang, carry a Nuummite stone in your pocket or sleep with it under your pillow.

Naica Selenite Glacier – Scientific exploration of the Naica mine in Chihuahua, Mexico revealed one of the most magnificent, hidden treasures on Earth—a magical cavern filled with white crystals the size of telephone poles. Like Superman’s Fortress of Solitude, this mine is filled with giant white crystals shooting out in every direction. The pure, high vibrational energy of this Naica Selenite is like liquid light. It has the ability to cleanse, purify and align you with your highest potential. When placed throughout the home, these Selenite crystals will turn your space into a fortress of solitude, and have you feeling super in no time!

BONUS: 

I burn Palo Santo Wood daily as well! It helps to clear the energy before I write or engage in creative tasks. Palo Santo Wood is a sacred wood that comes from the Palo Santo trees of South America. When it is burned, the smoke is believed to have medicinal, cleansing and therapeutic healing power. It also inspires creativity & clears all negative energy.

Placing protection stones and wearing protection jewelry promotes a healthy flow of energy throughout your body and your space, which is vital to your health and wellbeing. Crystals, plants and stones have given their metaphysical energies to protect people for aeons. From golden amulets of the ancient Egyptians to modern good luck charms, many protection magic items have been made of crystals and stones of various kinds. It’s time to see which one works for you!

Feature Photo by Arielle Levy.

Why Cannabis Works

Why Cannabis Works

Today, a PubMed search for scientific journal articles published in the last 20 years containing the word “cannabis” will reveal 16,614 results. Add the word “cannabinoid,” and the results increase to 22,122 articles.

That’s an average of more than two scientific publications per day over the last 20 years!

Have you ever wondered how one little plant can help treat so many conditions – each one vastly different from the next?

The search to answer these questions has led scientists to the discovery of a previously unknown physiologic system, a central component of the health and healing of every human and almost every animal: the endocannabinoid system.

The endocannabinoid system (ECS) is a little known network of receptors and compounds that’s found in every mammal and maintains the body’s equilibrium – regulating things like sleep, pain, appetite, immune function, reproduction, neurogenesis, and stress.

Think of it as a series of locks and keys throughout your body. The locks (or internal receptors) are everywhere, waiting for their keys (or cannabinoids) to come along.

The key might arrive in the form of an endocannabinoid, produced naturally by the body. On the other hand, it might arrive as a phytocannabinoid (THC or CBD) found naturally in cannabis. Endo- and phytocannabinoids actually stimulate the body in the same way.

While cannabis has been used for thousands of years, scientists only discovered the endocannabinoid system in 1992. This marked the first time we understood why cannabis works. Many studies since their discovery have shown that endocannabinoid’s are found throughout your entire system and they play a role in the optimum function of many daily activities our bodies usually struggle with.

Appetite, depression, social behavior, reproduction, sleep, immune function, stress receptors, anxiety, and stress response are all positively affected by endocannabinoids. That’s why so many people nowadays seem to be taking CBD based products in order to improve their wellbeing, some choosing to use a CBDistillery Coupon to get a discount whilst they do. CBD is known to have a lot of positive impacts on the body, meaning that many people take CBD whilst at work. Whilst this may improve your mood and performance, employers can screen you for cannabidiol so you may want to consider informing your employer beforehand to ensure they’re aware.

Historical records from ancient China and Greece suggest that preparations of Cannabis Indica were commonly prescribed to fight multiple sclerosis-like symptoms such as tremors and muscle pain. Even by doing a bit of research into something like What are Terpenes, finding out the benefits of CBD may give an insight into why many people choose to go down this route.

Modern research has confirmed these effects in a study on diseased mice, wherein studies showed impressive relieving effects on tremor and spasticity.

Jeffrey Egler, MD, of Parsley Health in Los Angeles says about cannabis, “It’s good science. The numerous benefits have been demonstrated and well-documented for years, if not decades… There are much cleaner products than others, as well as cleaner ways of dosing cannabis.”

Thanks to these advancements, today the plant remains a safe and effective tool to help treat anything from insomnia to anxiety and epilepsy to PTSD. As well as cannabis being able to treat numerous health-related problems, there are now different ways in which people can take and get hold of cannabis. Some people may even decide to grow their own cannabis in their garden by planting some seeds; allowing them to have the opportunity to watch their substance come to life. If you need help finding seeds, then don’t worry, there may be many dispensaries in your area that you can turn to, as well as looking at different online vendors. Suffering from any of the health issues listed above can be damaging, so don’t hesitate in trying something new to help manage it.

Oh the human body. What a trove of hidden treasure.

MY FAVORITE CANNABIS PRODUCTS:

  • Cannabis Essential Oil (a soothing blend for the skin, muscles and all types of massage. It is also supportive of mild skin conditions.)
  • Hemp Extract Gummies (Manage inflammation and pain relief naturally)
  • CBD Rich Hemp Oil (for pain management)
  • Organic Hemp Oil (for cooking + skin oil)
  • Hemp Seeds (Contains more protein and omegas and less carbs than the same serving of Chia or Flax)
  • Natural Hemp Cord (for candle making and household needs)
  • CALM NOW Stress Support Supplement (Herbal Blend Crafted To Keep Busy Minds Relaxed, Focused & Positive; Supports Serotonin Increase)
  • EndoCanna Care Extract (Ideal for managing inflammation, pain, stress & anxiety through naturally occurring phytonutrients found in this all-natural hemp extract.)
  • CBD Caragold (a natural, water-based personal lubricant infused with the powerful healing ingredients of organic CBD oil.)

#Bossify: My Definition of Success | An Interview with Emmy-Winner Abbey Gibb

#Bossify: My Definition of Success | An Interview with Emmy-Winner Abbey Gibb

Some conversations are just so effortless, you know they’re meant to be.

That’s how it felt when I sat down to talk with Abbey for the first time.

I am so excited that I have that moment on camera to share with you today. It’s honestly such an honor and absolute pleasure to be featured on #Bossify, a new show by Emmy Winner Abbey Gibb on Abbey Gibb TV.

Abbey features and interviews women about their definition of success by asking them each the same 5 questions.

I have been gifted such a dear friend in Abbey since this day and I think you guys are truly going to love our episode, which was really our first ever conversation – and a super powerful one at that!

Head HERE to watch the full episode! ??

How To Naturally Overcome Depression and Anxiety: (My Interview with The Wellness Hour)

How To Naturally Overcome Depression and Anxiety: (My Interview with The Wellness Hour)

My whole life I searched for meaning: in other people, in pharmaceutical drugs, in a drink, in a party, in a good grade. And it was right here all along, waiting for me to recognize it.

Honestly, it isn’t easy to talk about things like my mother’s drug and alcohol abuse or her overdosing in front of me as a kid.

It isn’t easy to speak about being the child of drug addicts, or being adopted or going through withdrawal myself for three years (after being on meds for almost half my life.)

It’s not easy to share my entire life story with near strangers, including the difficult stuff, the beautiful moments and everything in between.

It’s wasn’t easy to bear my soul on 250 more pages than I was obligated to write.

But it was worth it. It’s all been so, so worth it.

I am so grateful to share this experience on overcoming my fight with anxiety and depression – totally naturally. After so many years fighting what seemed like an uphill battle – against my circumstances, my labels and my environment – it’s incredible to know what it was all for.

The meaning IS your story. It is your most difficult days and your reckless choices and the times you fuck up. As long as you get back up every.damn.time, you’re golden.

Six year old, thirteen year old, twenty year old you will be SO proud of you. She truly will.

Thank you for reminding me ????? Thank you for giving me a platform and a voice.

Check out my full story on The Wellness Hour with @RandyAlvarez on YouTube!