Living My Medicine

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A couple of months ago, one of my greatest fears came true.  My hero, my Father, passed away.  Watching a parent die of Cancer is a life changing experience, and it’s definitely kept me from making unhealthy decisions all willy-nilly the way I used to in high school and College.  Facing your mortality isn’t always the most comforting experience, but if you use this to empower your life, it can be incredibly rewarding.   I have allowed myself to really live, mostly because that’s what my Dad would want me to do.

For the first few weeks all I wanted to do was sleep.  It wasn’t real to me, I didn’t feel like myself and I was completely exhausted.  Caring for my Dad in his final months, as well as the emotionally exhausting part of realizing he was actually gone, had drained me in every way.

 

+ Live, Learn, Do Nothing

When I came home I spent a few days curled up with a good book, listening to a ton of lectures about spirituality, dealing with death and life empowerment.  This proved to be extremely important, since a lot of times I was at a loss about how to be comforted.  My dear friend Josh Rosebrook actually sent me some great YouTube videos about crossing over and dealing with your departed that really changed the way I was grieving (for the better!) almost immediately.  I also took a social media break and allowed myself plenty of time to just do nothing, which was hard for me but has proved very integral to healing.

 

+ Travel

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Travel is one of my greatest therapies and I feel so lucky to be able to do it.  I finally lived out my dream of driving up to Northern California from Southern California (and back!) to work a Whole Foods Event in Monterey.  We were graced with incredible weather, food, people and organic products, as well as toured the Monterey Bay Aquarium before it opened.  I also went down to NOLA for my first time at the beginning of the month for an exciting project that I can hardly wait to share with you guys!  New Orleans is amazing and I had a blast.

 

+ Healing Rituals

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I light a candle for my Dad, my family and all my Ancestors once a day.  It keeps me mindful of where I came from, and grateful for who I am.

 

+ Nature 

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Whether it’s hiking, walking, swimming, surfing or just taking Raels for a good walk, I go out and spend some time in nature each and every day, no excuses.  My Dad actually inspired this a ton.  While we were going through his things for the funeral I found “running log” books dated from before I was born well into 2000.  He ran each and every single day, wrote down his stats, and even made little notes in the comments section about how he felt he was doing.  That kind of dedication inspired me incredibly to live his legacy in that same way.

 

+ Running

Once a day, at least.  On the beach.  Thanks, Dad. :)

 

+ Meditation

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More of it, and everywhere.  I visit the Self Realization Temples in Hollywood and Encinitas, but I also practice quite a bit at home and in nature.

 

+Art

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It’s just fun. :)

 

+ Books

Oh, books. What the hell would I do without you?  I’ve devoured quite a few – books on healing, autobiographies, some sci fi, and lots and lots of quantum theory.  This especially helps me to put my life into perspective, and even gets me lost in thought for the afternoon in the best ways.  Books that have been especially helpful are The Field, which my dear & talented friend Richard J Oliver recommended for me, Gandhi’s Autobiography, and The Book Of Secrets: Unlocking The Hidden Dimensions Of Your Life by Deepak Chopra, where he talks about losing his Dad quite a bit.

 

+ Music

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Between listening to it, working on it, and doing tons of music videos, music has kept me crazy amounts of sane these last few months.  Since the Arctic Monkeys video I did a couple of months ago, I’ve done videos with Young Money, Lea Michele, Calvin Harris, A Day To Remember, and Snoop Dogg, to name a few, and did my first casting work for a Demi Lovato music video.   I really, really enjoy this work.  It’s fun and creative and everyone is so great to work with.  Thanks, LA.  You really know how to keep a girl on her toes!

 

+Saving My Face

Not only have I found my perfect mix of supplements for amazing skin, I found an incredible all natural esthetician and have started getting the most life changing facials.  I’ve also found some holy grail green products that I can’t wait to share with you guys that have truly saved my face!  I feel so much better, younger, and confident.

+ Acting!

I took my first acting class this week and I think I have found my new therapy.  I missed it so much.  Acting is definitely one of my greatest passions and I really look forward to pursuing it in LA.  Another reason to wake up in the morning?  Check, plz!  I’ll take it. :)

+ It’s Pamper Time!

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I got myself a new ‘do. Thanks, Groupon.  You can get a girl a makeover without breaking her bank. ;)

 

+ Natural Rx’s

One of the first things a doctor suggested when I explained that my Dad had just passed away, was drugs.  “Short term anti-depressants” she called them, and took out her pad to write me a prescription.   Not relying on something prescribed to “calm me down” at a time like this in my life would have seemed totally impossible just a few years ago.  I told her pretty plainly that it wasn’t an option for me.  The only kind of treatment I’d leave with would be vitamins or supplements, thank you.  Luckily, she quickly obliged.  But the suggestion reminded me of days when I truly believed there was a cure in taking “short term” drugs every day.  We all make different choices in how to heal, but personally, I think myself and my soul are perfectly fine without them.

+You

Between all your incredibly touching words, messages, suggestions, stories and encouragement, I have been so overwhelmed with Love and Kindness since sharing my story that I am at a loss of how to begin to thank anyone.  Just knowing that I am not alone or crazy in the way that I feel about death or losing a parent or any of that is comforting enough.  I can’t even name the now hundreds of people who have made me feel better in just the last few months.  We are all stronger than we know and smarter than we think, aren’t we? Thank you all for sharing parts of yourselves with me.  I really look forward to sharing some new, incredible things I’ve discovered on this journey with you.

 

Today’s Mantra: The higher you climb the better the view.

 

3 responses to “Living My Medicine

  1. Gorgeous, gorgeous words. I feel so moved reading them because they could be my own. I’m so glad to know your path of healing and transformation is a thriving one. Brilliant girl :)
    Since my dad’s transition, I’ve done so much of the above you described. One of the books that helped my mom and I incredibly is “Conversations with God, Home with God in a Life that Never Ends,” which was gifted to us by a dear and spiritual friend during my dad’s last few months. It’s a book that explains death and the afterlife in details, and so much about how and why it happens as it does and when it does. It shifted my whole understanding and brought me to peace on many levels.
    Sending you lots of love!

  2. Tara, I lost my beloved mother to Cancer over a year ago, and it was certainly life changing in every which way. Look for the signs, in your dreams and in every day life. Our loved ones are still with us, just on a different plane. I also found that all of my healing over her death was really spread out over one year, and now I’m really fine, even though I miss my mom terribly. If you tap into the messages that the departed send your way I believe it will give you great comfort!

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